I really hate when someone calls somebody else jealous in a relationship because our whole definition of jealousy is distorted.
If you are flirting and talking to other people other than your partner and your partner gets upset, that is NOT jealousy, that is your partner feeling disrespected because you are deciding to put your time and effort into someone else other than your partner. If you feel the need to do that then why are you in a relationship?
Even the most confident and secure people don't want their partner to step out in the relationship, if you have no problem staying faithful, then you expect it from your partner as well. If you made a pact at the beginning of the relationship that the relationship was going to be between just the two of you, then that is something both partners need to acknowledge until the relationship ends.
So when one partner starts drifting and sharing the relationship with other people, of course the other partner is going to be hurt. But like I said this has nothing to do with jealousy and only the guilty party will try to make this seem like jealousy. Jealousy is wanting something somebody else has, but in a relationship no other person should have what your partner gives to you except you. And if that is not the case than I think something is wrong.
Then again this is just my opinion and of course this does not pertain to swingers which I have nothing against. These are just my thoughts in a relationship between two people because I am sick and tired of people being accused of being jealous when this is not the case.
Casita
