Let it Go

Something I've had a hard time dealing with is letting things go. For some reason I hold onto things. But really think about it, what is the point?  You holding onto something or hating someone doesn't hurt them any. In fact, it eats you up, while they are perfectly fine. I can't stress enough how important it is to let it go, don't dwell, don't hate, don't be bitter. Those things will really mess you up. And in order to have a positive life and positive mentality, those things need to go. There should be so much positivity that those things have no room in your life.

But I know, it's much easier said than done, I let them control my life for the past two years and I was so miserable. Negativity controlled my thoughts, but I don't want that anymore. I think one of the first things you have to get down to is why do you feel so bitter or jealous? What is the root of everything?  Is it a person? Maybe you need to distance yourself. I know I did. I was such an angry person,  I felt like a monster. And you also have to be able to deal with your pain in a better way. Maybe join a gym or a rugby team. Being bitter and envious isn't helping anything. Maybe you need to forgive someone,  but you really have to forgive them in your heart, don't fake it. And once you forgive them the past is the past. If you can't let that go, maybe you have to separate yourself from the situation. Sometimes we need some time alone to become clear headed about things.

The most important thing is you also have to forgive yourself. If there is anything you blame yourself for, you need to let it go. You will not be able to reach that positive point in your life if you are always harboring all this hatred. And of course like everything else, this will take time and work. You have to be willing to want to change. Some people will hold onto their grudges until the day they die, but I don't want to go out like that. The only person you are hurting is you so stop. Every negative feeling you decide to hold onto is a roadblock to your potential. Get out of your own way, you are the only one holding you back. The past is exactly that, the past. You've made mistakes,  so have other people,  and you and everyone else will continue to make mistakes. It's a part of being human. Just breathe and let out the bad.

Recently I recovered a friendship with someone who really hurt me. I was very bitter and angry with them for a long time. I held onto my hurt way longer than I should have. Eventually I forgave them and got on with my life. Hating them brought me down and I see now how pointless it was. Maybe it will take you a while to forgive someone, it took me almost two years. But once you've done it, it feels amazing.  It is a weight off your shoulders. And if you don't hold onto these negative feelings than hey your awesome and if you do it's okay you're still awesome.  Holding onto these emotions is human, it's working towards letting go of these negative feelings that makes us a much better person than we were before. I hope you can let it all go, not for the other person but for you. You deserve positivity and you deserve to be happy. But you have to choose to want to be happy.

One thing to also keep in mind is life is short, you might be here today and gone tomorrow. And so might that person you hate. I don't know about you but I don't want to regret never being able to tell someone I forgave them. Some food for thought.

Casita