Cheating, flirting, respect?

Now this may be a little off topic from my normal positive lifestyle posts but relationships with other people are going to be something that comes up in this journey. This might seem more like a vent sesh but I felt it important to get my ideas and opinions out there. So here it goes!

When it comes to significant others, some things boggle my mind. If you cheat, flirt, or what have you, think about how you are affecting the other person.  Put yourself in their shoes, would you like it if they did that to you? Would that bother you? If it would then why are you doing it?!? If it wouldn't then why are you with that person?  You obviously don't have enough respect for that person or the relationship to actually care about their feelings. Cheating and flirting with other people shouldn't be something you just accept, that's not what a healthy and respectful relationship looks like.

And the argument I always hear is that your significant other should have enough confidence within themselves that, flirting shouldn't bother them. But ask yourself really,  what is the point in your flirting?  Is that bettering your life? Is that bettering your relationship?  If it's not then why are you doing it? What is the point?

And I understand some of you really won't agree with this and that's fine, but everyone is entitled to their opinion and just like you have yours, I have mine. That's something we all have to learn, even me. Not everyone is going to agree with you, doesn't mean their opinion is lesser than your own. If you want respect, give it.

Casita

Being in a relationship with yourself

I think on this journey of loving and discovering yourself, you have to think of it as a relationship with yourself. In a relationship you cater to the other person,  you love the other person,  and you try to understand the other person. This is what you need to do with yourself. Be Your own best friend,  your lover, your everything. Put yourself first, invest in yourself, make your happiness a priority. I realized in relationships I am constantly trying to make the other person happy, but would never worry about myself.

So now that I'm alone, I can do that with myself. I find myself enjoying my own company. In fact, I crave my own company. I think that's the way it should be. That's the way I am when I'm in a relationship and technically this is a relationship.

So all in all, I'm pretty happy with my progress so far. I'm learning so much about myself and I can actually say I love me!

Casita

The Best of Intentions

So the other day someone told me their opinion of me and I couldn't believe it. They really thought my intentions for doing something were manipulative. I honestly and wholeheartedly could not believe that is what they thought of me. And I sat there trying to convince them that my intentions were not bad in any way but then I sat back and thought, why? This sounds like I'm trying to convince not only them but trying to convince myself as well. But I know that what I was doing wasn't what they thought but no amount of convincing is going to change their perception of me.

Perception is not always reality but that doesn't mean that you can change the way people think about you. And you shouldn't have to. If someone perceives you in a certain light then that's their opinion, which everyone is entitled to. Do not waste your time trying to change people's opinions of you. Be true to yourself and if you know who you are and know your real intentions then that's what matters. You are just going to frustrate yourself trying to make people see you the way you see you or the way you want them to see you.

Don't ever let someone make you question yourself,  you are giving them power over you that no one should have. People's opinion of you should not define you. And this is where really loving yourself and knowing yourself comes into play. If you are secure in yourself, people won't be able to make you second guess yourself. You are lovely, don't let people make you think otherwise. 

I also believe that once you start seeing the best in people, they will begin to see the best in you. So stop pointing out the worst, stop pointing out the flaws in others, and start seeing the amazing things about them. You get what you give, start giving love, respect, trust, and friendship and you'll be amazed at what you get in return. Go forth and continue to be happy and awesome!

Casita

Pain

So yesterday someone I care about tremendously said something that really got me thinking. They said I was an asshole. In the past I've been called that but aways laughed it off because of my sarcastic humor. But I really started thinking and I have become an asshole. I think it's okay to have that kind of humor but I think I use as a way to protect myself. I don't want to do that. I've seen too many people in this life that are so cold hearted because they let the world get to them. I don't want my heart to be calloused by the world. I don't want to be like everyone else. I want to love everyone no matter what. I want my love to be bountiful and unconditional.

A lot of people get hurt and decide to just stop loving because of that. I don't want to do that, and that in itself is a challenge. To not give up after being hurt so much is a really hard thing to do and a lot of people can't. But like I said I don't want to be like everyone else. I want to be different. I want to challenge myself and reach my potential and beyond. I want to make sure that when I love someone there is no doubt in their mind that my love is real. I seriously think I was put on this earth to inspire but more than anything to love. And pain is not going to stop me from doing that. And on the other side of pain is pleasure. I want my life to be amazing,  I want to be happy always, and pain is not going to stop me from doing that. I highly suggest you do the same. Don't let pain stop you from reaching your dreams. Don't let pain be the reason you didn't do something because regret will hurt much worse, I guarantee you. You can do it!

Casita